Bereavement and Autism: A Universal Experience with Unique Challenges
It is important for parents to prepare children for major life events, but one life event we all know will occur is bereavement and death and yet many of us are ill-prepared.
It is important for parents to prepare children for major life events, but one life event we all know will occur is bereavement and death and yet many of us are ill-prepared.
This is an excerpt from The Emperor, C’est Moi by Hugo Horiot. It is written by an individual with autism. It is a powerful story of a non-verbal individual, and how he thinks and lives in the verbal world of France. The word autism does not appear in the book. It is about differences, and…
Autism is not something to be feared, nor is it solely defined by medical jargon or categories. It needs to be accepted as the way an individual thinks, feels, and expresses themselves; nothing more, nothing less.
After all these years of observations, I’ve finally boiled having a reciprocal conversation down to five major things that need improvement.
It meant I finally found what I had been searching for, for more than 30 years. It meant closure of something looming over me. It meant satisfaction in me and my life in general. It was a relief to put a name to my idiosyncrasies and it gave me understanding and wisdom.
Those who don’t have sensory issues aren’t as sensitive to the different triggers as those with Aspergers Syndrome, and can’t often believe they exist.
There are advantages and disadvantages to being on the “higher-functioning” end of the autism spectrum, as opposed to being on the “lower-functioning” end or being neurotypical. One of the advantages, for me personally, is that I have experienced the inner life of the spectrum while at the same time having an awareness of myself as being on the spectrum. I can therefore comment on things that could not be commented on otherwise.
People think of me as different and I know that’s true,
But in many ways, I can be just like you.
Autism doesn’t mean I’m less than. I’m creative and fun. I love to learn. I love to work. I promise to always give you my best…and I keep my promises.
Wanting to be free
Wanting to be me
Trying to make people see
And accept the real me